10. Listen. I mean really listen. Let go of all the things that you think are important right now and completely focus on your spouse when they are trying to tell you something. Instead of trying to fix or help, just ask questions that help them talk it all through themselves.
9. Do the things you know your spouse would like you to do, but you hate to do. It doesn’t matter if it’s taking out the trash, keeping your stuff organized, or whatever else your spouse is constantly asking you to do, just do it. You will both be happier.
8. Surprise them. Don’t stop giving gifts or doing thoughtful things. Remember when your spouse mentions something they like and try to find ways to provide it for them. Don’t just give gifts to make up, try to surprise them when they are not expecting it.
7. Keep a budget. I know, this sounds boring. But finances are a real romance killer if they are not well taken care of. Try to make financial goals with your spouse and be willing to let them get their toy before you get yours.
6. Eat right and exercise. Show your love for your spouse by trying your best to be healthy. This doesn’t mean you have to be a health nut, only that you are willing to take care of yourself and that you will want to be attractive to them. Also, it will cut down the health bills significantly later in life.
5. Don’t yell. This doesn’t mean you can’t have a meaningful argument about something you disagree about. It just means that you do it in a respectful way. Use kind words. Don’t ague just because you are mad. Argue only to find a real solution to the problem and to make sure your spouse understands how you feel.
4. Get away. Try to get away from the normal routine from time to time. Especially if you have kids. Make sure you are taking time just for the two of you and building your relationship.
3. Be willing to admit you were wrong. In fact try to be the first to admit where you are wrong. Don’t let pride put a wedge between you and your loved one.
2. Make goals together. Make goals about financial plans, vacations, classes you want to take, things you want to learn, books you would like to read, spiritual etc. When you are working towards the same goals, it can unite you.
1. Make God the focus of your marriage. The closer you and your spouse are to God, the closer you will be to each other. Reading the scriptures and praying together can go a long way to help you feel close to God and each other. Worship together. Serve others together.
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